Opposing racism, vulgarity & obscenities, body & mind abuse (smoking, alcohol and drugs, etc.)
Introduction: While there isn’t one “Christian” lifestyle, there are certain pathways a Christian should aspire towards in life. God asks this of us for His own glory and our own good. In this section, we will first discuss topics of daily life, such as our personal relationships and civility, looking to the Bible as our guide. Then, we will turn to characteristics of negative lifestyles, such as racist beliefs and behavior, vulgarity and obscenity, and body and mind abuse (smoking, alcohol, and drugs). We hope God will speak to you about His plan for your life and how that corresponds to living a healthy lifestyle as the Bible describes.
Published in the Free Lance Star
The Bible, not justices, should define marriageCommenting on a recent letter to the Free Lance-Star by Michael Strobl , and other uninformed opinions concerning the pending Supreme Court ruling on same sex marriages.
The Supreme Court reveals an unbelievable arrogance in even considering same sex marriage. The Bible clearly establishes marriage in Genesis. God revealed that a man will leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife and they shall become one flesh. Every civilized nation since humans walked on the earth recognized the marriage of one man and one woman. We were founded as a Christian nation and for over 300 years it was widely accepted by American citizens.
Hate speech does not come from those who tell the truth. It comes from those who hate the truth and love a lie.
Using the civil rights struggle to promote the sexual appetites of the homosexual agenda is an affront to the dignity of black people. No other group in America has had to suffer the wicked injustices as did African blacks who were forced to provide hard labor with no compensation, and their American descendants.
VCA News – New Sign Goes Up!
At the end of October, 2014, VCA moved into its new office at 8659 Staples Mill Road in Richmond. It took awhile for the landlord to have a new sign made and installed. Three of the original founders stand in front of the new sign. Reverend Joe Ellison, VCA Founder Greene Hollowell, and VCA Chairman, Don Blake.
The new VCA office is about 100 yards from the original office location of six years. The new space has a larger, more private conference room, a full-size kitchen, and a meeting room that will seat at least 50 people very comfortably. The new space has already been used for group meetings, and plans are to make it available for other like-minded groups and church use.
As noted in previous articles, Religion appearing as Reason 5 in this list of 6 Reasons Marriage Fail, does not pre-conclude it is the next to last reason marriages fail.
If there are any constant themes in Scripture, one of them is to marry someone of the same belief. This does not mean, however, that a Baptist should only marry a Baptist or a Methodist a Methodist. The culmination of this teaching is found in 2nd Corinthians 6:14 which simply says:
“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?”
The Greek word yoked means literally to yoke up differently, that is, figuratively to associate discordantly.
It has been said evangelistic dating is the worst kind of evangelism and the worst kind of dating. There are better ways of winning the lost.
It was stated earlier in listing six reasons marriages fail each failing marriage has its Number One reason. Listing in-laws as the fourth reason doesn’t mean it ranks in fourth place. It could be Number One in some marriages.
I’ll launch this study with a question: In-laws or Out-laws?
The answer: That depends on several things not the least of which is how long the couple has known each other, and do they know each other’s families?
It is a sobering thought when engaged couples realize when they marry they are also marrying the entire family. Well, not exactly, but nevertheless a new relationship is entered into that encompasses more than just the couple.
As previously mentioned, this section of our discussion pertains to behavior within the realm of marriage. In pre-marital counseling I teach that engaged couples can practice all the aspects of marriage while dating – except living together and/or having a sexual relationship.
Overall we are looking at Six Reasons Marriages Fail. Thus far we have examined Role Reversal, Money and now Sex. We will conclude with In-laws, Religion and Life Dominating Sin.
Like money, sex is not the most important aspect of the marriage relationship; but it is a barometer concerning what is going on in a marriage relationship.
The mere mention of the word money evokes a variety of thoughts and emotions in many individuals.
The Bible is perhaps one of the most quoted and misquoted books ever written. For instance, it is often stated the Bible says money is the root of all evil - but not so.
Actually, First Timothy 6:10a reads: “For the love of money is the root of all evil.”
Regardless of how money affects any person’s mind and emotions, money is one of the six reasons marriages fail.
Money can be problematical in other types of relationships, but our focus on money is how it can affect marriages.
For many years we were told the three problem areas in marriage were money, sex and in-laws.
Study, personal observation and many years counseling has caused me to add three categories to this infamous trio: Husband/Wife Role Reversal, Religion and Life-dominating Sin.
When creating a list there must be a first item a last and those in between. Starting with Role Reversal and ending with Life-dominating Sin does not mean they rank in that order. Each marriage would have to be evaluated to determine the Number One problem area. Any one of these six might be at the top of a list.
We are the Number One source of our own problems – and this is the good news!
If God were the Number One source of my problems I would not want to contend with an omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent Being on a daily basis to ward off problems.
If Satan was the Number One source of my problems I would not want to contend with an un-seen adversary who “as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.”
Yes, other people’s poor choices vitally affect us, but even so, I would not want to contend with every one around me who is trying to control me and fit me into their mold.
You may recognize this as the title of a book written by Hal Lindsay in 1977. It is. But the same arena is alive today as then – in fact ever since we were introduced to Satan in Genesis 3:1:
“Now the serpent was more subtle than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he (the serpent) said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?”
Since Satan cannot be overlook as a potential source of problems, let’s look at the impact of this brief introduction to the most devious force known to mankind.
This flies in the face of those who ask, in the face of problems and difficulties, “Why did God let this happen to me?”
The response to this accusation against God is that He is the solution: Christ is the answer.
Blaming Satan by saying, “The Devil made me do it,” is easily denied by James 4:7: “Submit yourselves therefor to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from thee.”
We will never be without problems yet we need never be without a solution.
Shakespeare said it this way: “Sorrows (problems) come not single spies, but in battalions.” Another truism attests: The harder I try the behinder I get. And a still familiar lament from a past television series puts these words to verse: “If it weren’t for bad luck, I’d have no luck at all.”
Needless to say, perhaps we have all been there at one time or another; but we need never be without a solution.
All problems come from one of four sources. We will look at these over the next several sessions because knowing the source of the problem will point us to the solution.